Ceremonies within the Ceremony:
The reception is just another party.
We party all the time, for one reason or another.
We don't have a wedding ceremony everyday, now do we?
There are many ways you can put your personal stamp on your ceremony.
A standard wedding ceremony might go something like this:
Welcome and Introduction
Address to the bride and groom
Giving away of the Bride
Signing of the Register
Introduction of the couple
Your ceremony can be as elaborate or as simple as you wish. Look at all the options given to you when you choose me as your Celebrant!
I recomend a minimum of 4 mood songs for before the bride arrives. 1, 2 or 3 songs for when the bridal party walks down the aisle. 1 song when signing the register and 1 song for the recessional. Break Tradition, choose songs that are meaningful to you as a couple.
The Grand Entrance:
The family structure has changed and there are more and more brides with no father to walk them down the aisle. Who walks you down the aisle is totally up to you. Walk sown with your mum, dad, mum and dad, brother or grandfather. You get along with the Grooms family better than your own, Include them too. They can walk behind the flowergirls or after the matron of honour.
There are so many poets who know just how to capture the essence of love with their words. What you want to say to each other or express to your guests is likely to have been written by some poet somewhere.
I have a folder full of suitable poems, modern, deep and romantic. They are all easy to read by a guest, special friend, the bride or the groom or by me as part of the ceremony.
Rituals and symbolism:
Rituals are used to honour cultural and personal traditions. Symbolism is used to show the depth of our feelings and often becomes a reminder and method to improve our relationship or situation. I recomend you make a new tradition special for the two fo you!
Here are some suggestions -
Single Rose gift which Bride & groom exchange
Guests bring a flower which make your bouquet
Throwing wishing stones
Guests place wishing stones in a vase to keep
Unity sand ceremony
Collect the sand you are standing on when saying your vows
Warming of the rings
Releasing Doves or Butterflies
Community ribbon ceremony
Handfasting or tie the knot
Unveiling of the Bride
Community vow of support from the guests
Honouring deceased relatives or those who can not attend
Breaking the glass
Jumping the broom
You can choose vows from a list of over 300 alternatives. Many people want to write their own. This can be the place to break up the seriousness and add some humour.
I have combined the vows and ring ceremony to form a totally different message. It goes something like this:
"There are certain things that you can do to help ensure that you and 'Bride' live a long and happy life together: "
I then write 2 or 3 listing all the things you love about your partner and the little things they do for you every day which you really appreciate. This message can include your dreams for the future. Your partner is then asked if they will continue doing these things and take you as their husband and wife.
This vow ceremony is truely special and unique.
I Do take 2, involving kids:
Involving your children and starting a new blended family is actually quite easy. The key here is to make them feel welcome, involved but not forced or without choice. Teenagers may want to hear the words 'friend' and 'respect' and they will always be important. A younger child may want to be feel included and part of the family unit.
I have so many options. One of them will suit your situation and feel right. Consider these suggestions:
- Vow exchange between new parent to the child
- Gift of a ring, necklace or similar
- One or two paragraph message of promise
- Family ceremony e.g. sand or candle involving parents and kids as a group
- Give the kids important tasks or jobs to beinvolved in the ceremony
- Make them part of your bridal party
- Allow them to read a poem or verse
- Have them give you away, rather than your father.